The Wheels are turning

Happy Lazy Sunday.  It is so Fall in CT today.  Down right chili.  We have the pumpkin candles burning and are already thinking about when we will set a fire in the fireplace!  But we LOVE it.  It is Fair season all the way and although we missed a big, local fair this weekend, we plan to hit up more as Fall moves ahead.

We have been doing well here in recent weeks.  Everyone is settling into a nice routine.  Isaiah is learning more and more every day both at daycare and at School.  He has been processing his living situation a LOT lately.  Lots of questions about why he lives with us now and why he lived with his bio mom when he was a baby.  This past week he asked why he wasn't my baby and told Gabe and I that he missed us when he was a baby living with his mom...and that he didn't know our names then.  He's right.  We know his wheels are turning in his little head and we answer questions the best we can while staying age appropriate.  One thing that has helped is our ability to say that he will not be going back to live with his mom and that he will be staying here.

One of the social workers that we are working with has indicated that adoptive children have to navigate through 14 additional phases of life compared to biological children.  We are seeing that in real life right now.  All we can do is hope that we are helping him understand it all a little better.

We just finished his first homework assignment at the kitchen table.  As we got up after completing it I said, "well there will be years of that to come, my friend".  His response "What?  What you said?"  Riiiiight!

Shocker!

Quick update.  There was a court date on Monday.  We knew it but blocked it out with everything else going on.  DCF reminded us and our attorney was going to be at court for something else anyway.  So they all went and we did not.  DCF called at about 4pm to say that Isaiah's Mom went to court and voluntarily gave up her parental rights that day.  As much as we hoped for this, I cried.  I can't imagine what it must have been like for her being that we couldn't let him go after living with him for a year and not having given birth to him.  She also stated that she didn't think there should be any further visits because she would be so emotional that it might negatively impact Isaiah.  Something we respect but that breaks our heart for him.  We hope she reconsiders because we would like them to have a final visit.
We heard from DCF that Mom was devastated when she heard we were having Isaiah move to another family.  When she heard we reconsidered she cried tears of joy.  In my heart I believe she wanted to help make this easier on him and us as we move forward.  For that we are very thankful!
Big week here at Casa Carr.  We just want some calm now!  CALM I SAY!