Gabe's parents sent the family a new Nativity set...this is Isaiah playing with it this morning. This moment, with the Christmas music in the background and us reading the paper on the couch felt like a good old fashioned Christmas moment.
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Friday, December 4, 2009
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Birthday fun!
Today, we went to a birthday party for a friend named Riley. She turned 3 and had a Dance Party! It was fun. Here is some of the fun dancing the kids got to do!
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Court Date
Good Evening~
Boy is Daylight Savings time nuts or what? We have been in bed by 9pm every night. It is wacky, I say.
So, lots going on at Casa Carr this week. Gabe got offered a new job as an HR Associate for the CT State Department of Corrections. He is THRILLED! We all are. He has been waiting for this opportunity for a long time and is very excited. He will start there on 12/4.
Today there was a Case Status Review at court that I attended. We knew from the beginning that there wasn't a lot that we would be told, it was basically to review the recommendations of the Psychological Evaluation. I didn't actually get to go in and hear them first hand but I got to see everything else unfold. Essentially, mom received the sad news that everyone agrees that moving toward terminating her parental rights is the plan. She was very sad. She also asked for increased visits, which was denied. It is pretty clear that some mental health and substance use issues are resurfacing right now. It was a relief that the Psychologist was able to see what is best for both children involved in this case. Of course, it is still a long process but this is the first time we actually felt like it is going in our direction and it will be interesting to see how mom behaves as we move ahead.
As far as Isaiah goes, he has had to endure more transition this week. His new teacher had a car accident a couple of weeks ago and has been at school only sporadically. This week they sent her home indefinitely and he has had to move into a new room. Luckily he knows the kids already and the teacher seems to be on top of her stuff. He was in her room for the first time today and he got a status report sent home with him today. I wonder if it will be like that every day! He had a great day today. He really is doing great. He is almost all the way through his ABC's...something he couldn't have even started when he got here. He is counting and recognizing his colors! Leaps and bounds.
This weekend he is going to his first kid birthday party. It is a dance party. He loves to dance to Dave Matthews so it should be great. And I know you are thinking, sure he does Bev, but seriously. We have 2 CDs in the CD player in his play room...kid songs and the new Dave CD. He will listen to the entire kids CD and play and be quiet...as soon as Dave comes on, he is jumping around and twirling like a freaking breakdancer. I kid you not!
Time for bed...since it is really 10pm. Have a good night!
Boy is Daylight Savings time nuts or what? We have been in bed by 9pm every night. It is wacky, I say.
So, lots going on at Casa Carr this week. Gabe got offered a new job as an HR Associate for the CT State Department of Corrections. He is THRILLED! We all are. He has been waiting for this opportunity for a long time and is very excited. He will start there on 12/4.
Today there was a Case Status Review at court that I attended. We knew from the beginning that there wasn't a lot that we would be told, it was basically to review the recommendations of the Psychological Evaluation. I didn't actually get to go in and hear them first hand but I got to see everything else unfold. Essentially, mom received the sad news that everyone agrees that moving toward terminating her parental rights is the plan. She was very sad. She also asked for increased visits, which was denied. It is pretty clear that some mental health and substance use issues are resurfacing right now. It was a relief that the Psychologist was able to see what is best for both children involved in this case. Of course, it is still a long process but this is the first time we actually felt like it is going in our direction and it will be interesting to see how mom behaves as we move ahead.
As far as Isaiah goes, he has had to endure more transition this week. His new teacher had a car accident a couple of weeks ago and has been at school only sporadically. This week they sent her home indefinitely and he has had to move into a new room. Luckily he knows the kids already and the teacher seems to be on top of her stuff. He was in her room for the first time today and he got a status report sent home with him today. I wonder if it will be like that every day! He had a great day today. He really is doing great. He is almost all the way through his ABC's...something he couldn't have even started when he got here. He is counting and recognizing his colors! Leaps and bounds.
This weekend he is going to his first kid birthday party. It is a dance party. He loves to dance to Dave Matthews so it should be great. And I know you are thinking, sure he does Bev, but seriously. We have 2 CDs in the CD player in his play room...kid songs and the new Dave CD. He will listen to the entire kids CD and play and be quiet...as soon as Dave comes on, he is jumping around and twirling like a freaking breakdancer. I kid you not!
Time for bed...since it is really 10pm. Have a good night!
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Happy Halloween!
Good evening~
Well today really felt like Halloween in CT. The wind was literally howling through our house and the leaves were flying around under a cloudy sky. I loved it! We have all been looking forward to today...but first I will rewind.
Yesterday was Isaiah's school party and parade. I volunteered in his class and held hands through the parade line. The kids were adorable. They all had a blast and were exhausted by the end. Then they read books, watch movies and had a grand old time. Yesterday was scheduled to be Isaiah's weekly visit with him mom but I received a call at 3pm that she did not show. At first, I panicked I must say. I was worried something happened to her. Apparently she has been sort of off DCF's radar this week so something must be going on, but at least it doesn't sound like she is in any way hurt. It was confusing for Isaiah but he came home and we kept it business as usual and then went up to my cousin Bill's house for our Friday night dinner with his family. Isaiah played with my cousin William who is a little over a year old. They played very well together. Isaiah fell asleep on the way home.
Today we woke up to get ready to receive our new fridge. We shopped for it last weekend with Isaiah and were all so excited when it arrived. We played all day and then got ready for tricks or treats. My aunt and uncle came over to hand out candy while we went around the circle.
Isaiah climbed into his dinosaur / dragon costume and we hit the road. He understood the concept and said "trick or treat" and "thank you" but after the 2nd house he wanted to go home and eat his winnings. Um, not yet friend.
We made it around the circle and he was so well received from our neighbors. They all commented on his costume and he ate it up. Overall it was a positive night with only some minor stomping related to candy after the fact. Totally normal.
Thank goodness we have an extra hour of sleep tonight...Gabe and I need it!
Sleep well and Happy Halloween. Here is our first Halloween Family photo!
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
A year later!
Good evening~
As we approach Halloween, it is hard not to look back. You may think, what? Halloween is not one of those reflective holidays. True, but it was last Halloween that my Dad had a complicated surgery and we didn't know if he would make it through the night. It is amazing what anniversaries trigger within us. This time last year we had declined the placement of Charlie in our home, were coping with my dad's illness and starting my new practice. We got through it all, but it creaps back in when this time of year rolls around.
Now, we are living with Isaiah. I have heard from many of you about how much you enjoyed the little video we posted earlier this week. It really is cute to see him and listen to his voice. He certainly has his own little personality. This week has been typical, with ups and downs. We have learned that no nap at daycare= a miserably tired little boy from 6pm on! Oh the misery...for all of us.
I have been trying to rearrange my schedule to be home more in the evenings, for dinner and bedtime. Hopefully this will allow Gabe some reprieve and allow me more time with Isaiah. Tonight, bedtime was cake. Last night it was hell. I literally cried after...and he creid for a while. But, all to be expected I suppose! At least that is what we are told.
This weekend is the big trick or treat outing. Well, first we have the Halloween parade at daycare...and Halloween party. I get to bring cupcakes. FUN! I will be volunteering in his classroom for the parade and will take many pictures and some video. All to be posted. Then Saturday we head out around our neighborhood circle for tricks or treats. My mom, Barbie, is coming down for the event. Isaiah is already looking forward to it, but I really don't know if he understands it. We'll see!
We hope you all enjoy your Halloween...and maybe take a look back at your last year too. Reflection is powerful and necessary to really appreciate today!
Good night!
As we approach Halloween, it is hard not to look back. You may think, what? Halloween is not one of those reflective holidays. True, but it was last Halloween that my Dad had a complicated surgery and we didn't know if he would make it through the night. It is amazing what anniversaries trigger within us. This time last year we had declined the placement of Charlie in our home, were coping with my dad's illness and starting my new practice. We got through it all, but it creaps back in when this time of year rolls around.
Now, we are living with Isaiah. I have heard from many of you about how much you enjoyed the little video we posted earlier this week. It really is cute to see him and listen to his voice. He certainly has his own little personality. This week has been typical, with ups and downs. We have learned that no nap at daycare= a miserably tired little boy from 6pm on! Oh the misery...for all of us.
I have been trying to rearrange my schedule to be home more in the evenings, for dinner and bedtime. Hopefully this will allow Gabe some reprieve and allow me more time with Isaiah. Tonight, bedtime was cake. Last night it was hell. I literally cried after...and he creid for a while. But, all to be expected I suppose! At least that is what we are told.
This weekend is the big trick or treat outing. Well, first we have the Halloween parade at daycare...and Halloween party. I get to bring cupcakes. FUN! I will be volunteering in his classroom for the parade and will take many pictures and some video. All to be posted. Then Saturday we head out around our neighborhood circle for tricks or treats. My mom, Barbie, is coming down for the event. Isaiah is already looking forward to it, but I really don't know if he understands it. We'll see!
We hope you all enjoy your Halloween...and maybe take a look back at your last year too. Reflection is powerful and necessary to really appreciate today!
Good night!
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Sunday morning at Casa Carr!
This is our Sunday morning ritual...going through the newspaper circulars! We actually all quite enjoy it!!!
Hope you do too!
Hope you do too!
Monday, October 12, 2009
Happy Columbus Day!
Good morning!
Sorry I haven't been blogging much this past week. no real reason why, just haven't been. So let's see what was our week like? Fairly painless, actually. Isaiah continues to do well at his school, other than nap time. I believe the notes home from the teacher go something like this.
Isaiah went to the Firehouse last week for a field trip. So we have been practicing stop drop and roll, started today. He gets the stop and roll, but neglects the drop. Interesting.
This weekend we had some friends down and camped out in our driveway. They brought their motor home and my cousin came with her 2 three year old boys. It was an event! Isaiah loved the camper and playing with the boys. It was a good introduction to camping so that next season he can come out and really camp with us. Below is a picture of him in the camper!
Happy (short) week, all!
Sorry I haven't been blogging much this past week. no real reason why, just haven't been. So let's see what was our week like? Fairly painless, actually. Isaiah continues to do well at his school, other than nap time. I believe the notes home from the teacher go something like this.
"Dear Bev and Gabe: Isaiah had an accident at nap time today and didn't want to stay on his cot. Instead he dragged his cot all around the room while his friends tried to nap."
HA!
Although it is not even remotely funny, I can totally picture it! Unreal. so we are working with the teacher to get him into shape at nap time. She is a new to the school teacher and she is very sweet, perhaps too sweet. We told her that she is just going to have to get him mad at her before he listens to her. End of story. Today she started a nap chart with all the kids in class. We'll see how that goes! HA!
Isaiah went to the Firehouse last week for a field trip. So we have been practicing stop drop and roll, started today. He gets the stop and roll, but neglects the drop. Interesting.
This weekend we had some friends down and camped out in our driveway. They brought their motor home and my cousin came with her 2 three year old boys. It was an event! Isaiah loved the camper and playing with the boys. It was a good introduction to camping so that next season he can come out and really camp with us. Below is a picture of him in the camper!
Happy (short) week, all!
Friday, October 2, 2009
Peaceful Friday!
Happy Weekend!!!
Well we made it through the week of sniffles and coughing...both Gabe and Isaiah. No fevers, just change of weather muck. Hopefully we are on the mend.
The end of this week has been very good. Really this whole week has been good. Isaiah continues to do wonderful in school. He comes home singing his ABC's and Old McDonald. This week he will go on his first field trip. He is very excited.
Today was supposed to be his weekly visit with his mom but she canceled because she, too, is sick. Although we don't wish sickness on her, it has given us a little reprieve from the rollercoaster and time to continue our routine. It was nice, we made and had dinner together tonight. Tacos!!!
This week is a big one. The state is conducting a psychological evaluation on Isaiah, his mom, sister and mom's husband. It is a big eval, mom will be there all day and Isaiah has to go for 45 minutes. We won't really know what the results are, but I am fairly certain that, after this eval is done, the psychologist will recommend either reunification or termination. Now...that doesn't mean that DCF complies with the recommendation...especially since there is a lot of time between now and the decision. But it is a big deal. It also means Isaiah will see his mom twice next week. So our peace will be disrupted...a bit.
This weekend we are spending some time with friends and family. Tomorrow we are having dinner with friends and Sunday is a Dog fair on our town green that my mom is coming down for. Hopefully the weather will hold out. For now, I am getting ready to call it a night.
Wishing you all a wonderful weekend.
Well we made it through the week of sniffles and coughing...both Gabe and Isaiah. No fevers, just change of weather muck. Hopefully we are on the mend.
The end of this week has been very good. Really this whole week has been good. Isaiah continues to do wonderful in school. He comes home singing his ABC's and Old McDonald. This week he will go on his first field trip. He is very excited.
Today was supposed to be his weekly visit with his mom but she canceled because she, too, is sick. Although we don't wish sickness on her, it has given us a little reprieve from the rollercoaster and time to continue our routine. It was nice, we made and had dinner together tonight. Tacos!!!
This week is a big one. The state is conducting a psychological evaluation on Isaiah, his mom, sister and mom's husband. It is a big eval, mom will be there all day and Isaiah has to go for 45 minutes. We won't really know what the results are, but I am fairly certain that, after this eval is done, the psychologist will recommend either reunification or termination. Now...that doesn't mean that DCF complies with the recommendation...especially since there is a lot of time between now and the decision. But it is a big deal. It also means Isaiah will see his mom twice next week. So our peace will be disrupted...a bit.
This weekend we are spending some time with friends and family. Tomorrow we are having dinner with friends and Sunday is a Dog fair on our town green that my mom is coming down for. Hopefully the weather will hold out. For now, I am getting ready to call it a night.
Wishing you all a wonderful weekend.
Monday, September 28, 2009
Nothing is predictable!
Good evening~
The wind is howling here tonight and it is really starting to feel like Fall. I love it.
We talked to Gabe's parents tonight and they are coming out in a couple of weeks to meet Isaiah and visit with us. We are all very excited about that!!
Today was a nutty day. Well it started with last night. Isaiah woke up coughing pretty bad. I kicked into mommy gear...or grandma gear and got out the Vick's vaporub! Awwww yeah! It helped a little but he ended up needing a breathing treatment. That helped him fall back to sleep. He woke up this morning with no fever but still some cough. Another breathing treatment and off to day care. Went to the day care at noon to give him another treatment and he was doing well. From that time until he got picked up he had 2 accidents in his pants...meaning that he had no change of clothes.
Gabe called me at 5:15 to say that he was stuck in grid lock traffic and wouldn't be able to get to the day care in time. I had a client in my office and another one in the waiting room. I had to ask my 5:30 to come back another day and zoomed to day care before they closed.
When I got there, Isaiah was thrilled to see me and was LITERALLY wearing his long sleeve striped shirt, a pull up, white socks and his brown shoes. NO PANTS. Because he wet twice he went through all his spare clothes. He could have cared less. He was running around having a blast...in a pull up. I just had to laugh.
Tonight he came home and had a slight fever and went right to bed after dinner and a bath. He pretty much fell asleep while I rocked him.
So now we wait and see how he is tonight and then again tomorrow. We are certainly realizing that nothing is predictable and planning things doesn't always work...like going to work.
The wind is howling here tonight and it is really starting to feel like Fall. I love it.
We talked to Gabe's parents tonight and they are coming out in a couple of weeks to meet Isaiah and visit with us. We are all very excited about that!!
Today was a nutty day. Well it started with last night. Isaiah woke up coughing pretty bad. I kicked into mommy gear...or grandma gear and got out the Vick's vaporub! Awwww yeah! It helped a little but he ended up needing a breathing treatment. That helped him fall back to sleep. He woke up this morning with no fever but still some cough. Another breathing treatment and off to day care. Went to the day care at noon to give him another treatment and he was doing well. From that time until he got picked up he had 2 accidents in his pants...meaning that he had no change of clothes.
Gabe called me at 5:15 to say that he was stuck in grid lock traffic and wouldn't be able to get to the day care in time. I had a client in my office and another one in the waiting room. I had to ask my 5:30 to come back another day and zoomed to day care before they closed.
When I got there, Isaiah was thrilled to see me and was LITERALLY wearing his long sleeve striped shirt, a pull up, white socks and his brown shoes. NO PANTS. Because he wet twice he went through all his spare clothes. He could have cared less. He was running around having a blast...in a pull up. I just had to laugh.
Tonight he came home and had a slight fever and went right to bed after dinner and a bath. He pretty much fell asleep while I rocked him.
So now we wait and see how he is tonight and then again tomorrow. We are certainly realizing that nothing is predictable and planning things doesn't always work...like going to work.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Sunday night
Good evening~
Hope you all had a nice weekend. The weather here today was AWFUL. Rainy and dismal. Luckily we haven't had many of those. When it rains, kids get cranky and bored. Yep!
Nothing significant happened today. It was just a day of keeping a 3 year old occupied while we all kind of felt under the weather. Funny how when kids don't feel so good, they still have the energy of a wild animal but when I don't feel so well I need to sleep. The two don't really mix now do they?
But we survived. And I am finally heading up to take a shower now. At 9pm. First one of the day. The good news is we made it through a rough day with no hitting and only 1 threat to have my ass kicked. Yeah, by a 3 year old. At the end of the day when you are tired and irritable and a 3 year old tells you they are going to kick your ass if you don't let them watch Barney, it is REALLY temping to say, "LET ME SEE WHAT YOU GOT KID?" It was on the tip of my tongue, I swear!
So we are getting ready for bed, watching some football, snuggling JP and reading a bit. Tomorrow starts another week. It has been 4 weeks since Isaiah has come to live here. Some days it seems longer and others not so long. Today, it feels like he has been here 6 months...but I am sure it is just because we are tired...and the low pressure of the rain is depressing.
Here's to a sunny day tomorrow!!!
Until then...
Hope you all had a nice weekend. The weather here today was AWFUL. Rainy and dismal. Luckily we haven't had many of those. When it rains, kids get cranky and bored. Yep!
Nothing significant happened today. It was just a day of keeping a 3 year old occupied while we all kind of felt under the weather. Funny how when kids don't feel so good, they still have the energy of a wild animal but when I don't feel so well I need to sleep. The two don't really mix now do they?
But we survived. And I am finally heading up to take a shower now. At 9pm. First one of the day. The good news is we made it through a rough day with no hitting and only 1 threat to have my ass kicked. Yeah, by a 3 year old. At the end of the day when you are tired and irritable and a 3 year old tells you they are going to kick your ass if you don't let them watch Barney, it is REALLY temping to say, "LET ME SEE WHAT YOU GOT KID?" It was on the tip of my tongue, I swear!
So we are getting ready for bed, watching some football, snuggling JP and reading a bit. Tomorrow starts another week. It has been 4 weeks since Isaiah has come to live here. Some days it seems longer and others not so long. Today, it feels like he has been here 6 months...but I am sure it is just because we are tired...and the low pressure of the rain is depressing.
Here's to a sunny day tomorrow!!!
Until then...
Saturday, September 26, 2009
A week later!
Good evening everyone!
Sorry I have been neglecting the blog. We are still getting into a rhythm here in Colchester and the days seem to FLY by! But all in all, things are good.
First things first, we fought our first semi battle with DCF and WON! We were thrilled and we are no longer transporting Isaiah to his visits with his mom. It was just to abnormal....unnatural, if you will. We do feel like it was good for her to get to meet us and know who he was with, but the reality and is that we are not going to all hang out and be chummy so we wanted some distance. We told DCF that and they made it so. Nice.
They also upped the amount of time Isaiah sees his mom. He went from seeing her once a week for 1 hour to 1.5 hours. Not significant and not what she wanted which was another whole visit in the week. We were surprised and somewhat upset but have come to terms with it. I think we will be doing a lot of that, coming to terms with things that DCF does.
Isaiah has had a nice week. He has done well at day care and is getting ready to go on his first field trip to the Firehouse in a couple of weeks. He is already talking about it.
He continues to do very well with potty training. He loves the positive reinforcement we give him and so he tries to go more often. It's working! AND since his diet is regulated he is experiencing more normal, boy-like poop! Was that an over share???
We are VERY happy to say that JP is doing so much better. It took many trips to the vet and swipes of the credit card to get him healing, but he is doing well. Below is a picture of him in his new Doggles, which may be helping more than anything. They reduce his light sensitivity and allow him to be out in the sun with no problems. I think the big thing that went wrong with him was related to his eye sight. He would flinch in the sun and then fall over. Poor puppa! But now he is a cool dog AND can see ok. Seriously, we would do anything for this dog!
Gabe and I are settling in after a fun "Welcome Fall" party at my cousin's house. There was yummy food, friends and a fire pit blazing. Gabe and I are both starting to feel under the weather and are looking forward to a rainy day tomorrow to do nothing but stay in!
Have a nice weekend!!
Saturday, September 19, 2009
What a day!
Good evening. Boy the Fall has hit CT and it has been chilly. But we LOVE IT!! Love, love, love it. We have had an eventful couple of days and, as we lay in bed with JP tonight, we are feeling more at ease. But it took some drama to get us here!
Friday was a rough day...it was a visit day. Without getting into much detail, we got some news we didn't like but more importantly we received it in a way that was unprofessional on the part of DCF. We reached out to our support worker and got minimal support, so we talked it out in the back yard last night under the stars. We made some decisions on how this needs to go for us and have drawn some lines. And it feels good. What is even better is that our transitional worker came over today for a visit and totally validated things for us and said she will advocate for us. I think we literally both breathed a sigh of relief. FINALLY! Someone is going to look out for us...and we are too...while we do what's best for Isaiah!
Today was a BIG day. Gabe's company has been planning a 5K fundraiser for months. It was Gabe's idea and he was a big part of the planning committee. It was stressful over the past couple of weeks for him and to have the day come was a relief. Add to that perfect running weather and a lot of runners and we have a happy Goobie! Isaiah and I went and played in the park while the run happened. Then there was a picnic that we went to. Friends and family came out to support the cause and it was so beautiful outside. Isaiah had a great time playing in the dirt and with sticks. Riveting!
Then tonight we drove about 40 minutes south to the shore for dinner with some friends. It was the last trip of the summer to this particular restaurant and it was fun. We ate great food and there was music...and Isaiah got ice cream. Before we drove home, we changed him into his jammies, put his cozy blanket on him and put the sleepytime CD into the player. He didn't fall right to sleep but he was yawning back there and went right into his bed without incident tonight.
So, it was a jam packed day and it was great. I think we are all feeling relieved a bit and hoping for a more balanced experience with DCF starting next week. We'll see.
Until then...
Friday was a rough day...it was a visit day. Without getting into much detail, we got some news we didn't like but more importantly we received it in a way that was unprofessional on the part of DCF. We reached out to our support worker and got minimal support, so we talked it out in the back yard last night under the stars. We made some decisions on how this needs to go for us and have drawn some lines. And it feels good. What is even better is that our transitional worker came over today for a visit and totally validated things for us and said she will advocate for us. I think we literally both breathed a sigh of relief. FINALLY! Someone is going to look out for us...and we are too...while we do what's best for Isaiah!
Today was a BIG day. Gabe's company has been planning a 5K fundraiser for months. It was Gabe's idea and he was a big part of the planning committee. It was stressful over the past couple of weeks for him and to have the day come was a relief. Add to that perfect running weather and a lot of runners and we have a happy Goobie! Isaiah and I went and played in the park while the run happened. Then there was a picnic that we went to. Friends and family came out to support the cause and it was so beautiful outside. Isaiah had a great time playing in the dirt and with sticks. Riveting!
Then tonight we drove about 40 minutes south to the shore for dinner with some friends. It was the last trip of the summer to this particular restaurant and it was fun. We ate great food and there was music...and Isaiah got ice cream. Before we drove home, we changed him into his jammies, put his cozy blanket on him and put the sleepytime CD into the player. He didn't fall right to sleep but he was yawning back there and went right into his bed without incident tonight.
So, it was a jam packed day and it was great. I think we are all feeling relieved a bit and hoping for a more balanced experience with DCF starting next week. We'll see.
Until then...
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Lots of stuff!
Greetings everyone!
Well, I know it has been a while since I wrote...things have just been going so quickly this week.
Gabe is back to work...and he was met with a pleasant surprise yesterday. His coworkers got together and threw him a surprise party...shower if you will. Everyone was so nice and generous and gave gifts for Isaiah. Gabe was so touched with their planning and sentiment. It was a wonderful surprise!
Isaiah is at day care most days now and is loving it. He hugs his teacher good bye every day...and it happy to report that he doesn't hit her at the end of each day. We had one day when he did and we jumped all over that. So now he is proud when he doesn't...that works. He will start getting speech services next week twice a week for an hour. During that time they will be evaluating him for any additional services that may be needed. We'll see.
We went to another local fair this weekend with some friends and Isaiah had a BLAST. There were 2 other little girls that came, a little older than him. He loved hanging out with them and they took him under their fair going wings and had a blast. Above is a picture of him holding a baby chick.
JP is still a little under the weather. He has been struggling to walk this week...and last. The doctor think it is something in his back pushing against his spine and causing some numbness. He really just looks like a drunk dog who can't quite walk straight. We don't think he is in any pain and he is still eating and pooping like a champ and that is always a good sign...at least to me!
This weekend we have Gabe's company 5K run to go to. While Gabe works we will play at the playground the park with my cousin's wife and her son. Should be fun!
We hope everyone is doing well and enjoying the Fall!!!
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Testing, Testing, Testing!
Good evening~
Gabe and I are settling in for some evening Football! Ahhhh....just what we need after a ROUGH day! I will first back up with a PPT update. Isaiah has not yet started school because Colchester did not officially honor his IEP so they are reevaluating him. It was a frustrating meeting for us but Isaiah has an educational advocate who was there and who will be sure his needs are met in the end. So he is in daycare now and luckily it is a great day care run like a school so he will be getting educational components. We will meet with the distric again after their evaluation in mid October to see if they have qualified him for Speech and Special Education services.
Yesterday Isaiah had another visit with his mom. She brought him some of his old toys and Barney videos and we have seen some regression since getting those reminders of his old home. A lot of accidents in the pants today after nearly a week without one, more aggressive play and increased aggression towards us in the form of hitting and kicking. Today made Gabe and I miss our old life. It was beyond challenging.
JP seems to be on the mend...albeit sloooowly. This is a huge relief for Gabe and myself. We were both a wreck with him being so sick, but are hoping we have turned a corner.
Tomorrow is another day...and hopefully a better one. Between the adjustment and JP being sick I don't know how many more tears we have to shed. Personally I think we are both dehydrated!
We hope you are all having a nice weekend. And we hope ours improves tomorrow.
Until then...
Gabe and I are settling in for some evening Football! Ahhhh....just what we need after a ROUGH day! I will first back up with a PPT update. Isaiah has not yet started school because Colchester did not officially honor his IEP so they are reevaluating him. It was a frustrating meeting for us but Isaiah has an educational advocate who was there and who will be sure his needs are met in the end. So he is in daycare now and luckily it is a great day care run like a school so he will be getting educational components. We will meet with the distric again after their evaluation in mid October to see if they have qualified him for Speech and Special Education services.
Yesterday Isaiah had another visit with his mom. She brought him some of his old toys and Barney videos and we have seen some regression since getting those reminders of his old home. A lot of accidents in the pants today after nearly a week without one, more aggressive play and increased aggression towards us in the form of hitting and kicking. Today made Gabe and I miss our old life. It was beyond challenging.
JP seems to be on the mend...albeit sloooowly. This is a huge relief for Gabe and myself. We were both a wreck with him being so sick, but are hoping we have turned a corner.
Tomorrow is another day...and hopefully a better one. Between the adjustment and JP being sick I don't know how many more tears we have to shed. Personally I think we are both dehydrated!
We hope you are all having a nice weekend. And we hope ours improves tomorrow.
Until then...
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Back to work does not equal blog post!
Hi all-
My apologies for skipping an entry last night. I went back to work yesterday and was exhausted by the time I got home at 8pm!
I know people are wondering what happened in court yesterday. The short answer is: nothing. The hearing was about Dad and the fact that he has still not been served neglect papers or notification of the state's intent to file termination of parental rights. Apparently he is on vacation so they gave more time to serve him blah blah blah. A couple of good things that came from the hearing are that we were able to see what it is like and we were able to meet Isaiah's attorney. He will be coming out to the house to pay a visit in the next month or so!
Listening at court also made us realize how far we are from really keeping this little boy. If Dad decides that he wants to be a parent DCF has to try to let that happen. I don't think he does though since he hasn't returned any of their calls in the past. Just interesting.
This morning we got up and took JP to the vet. He has been ill and come to find out it is his kidney disease progressing. So we were there for 2 hours, just me and Isaiah. That was interesting. It gave him enough time to poop on the toilet though. In the vet's office. Lol, he told everyone in the waiting room when he was done. The nurse gave him stickers! It's the first time in a public bathroom. AND he stayed dry all night last night. Amazing potty training progress.
Tomorrow we have a PPT at his school and he will spend the afternoon at his new daycare. He may start school Friday...or the following Monday. We are all looking forward to getting into a regular schedule...especially JP!
Tonight I am heading to the spa in town for a 1 hour massage! I can't wait!!!
My apologies for skipping an entry last night. I went back to work yesterday and was exhausted by the time I got home at 8pm!
I know people are wondering what happened in court yesterday. The short answer is: nothing. The hearing was about Dad and the fact that he has still not been served neglect papers or notification of the state's intent to file termination of parental rights. Apparently he is on vacation so they gave more time to serve him blah blah blah. A couple of good things that came from the hearing are that we were able to see what it is like and we were able to meet Isaiah's attorney. He will be coming out to the house to pay a visit in the next month or so!
Listening at court also made us realize how far we are from really keeping this little boy. If Dad decides that he wants to be a parent DCF has to try to let that happen. I don't think he does though since he hasn't returned any of their calls in the past. Just interesting.
This morning we got up and took JP to the vet. He has been ill and come to find out it is his kidney disease progressing. So we were there for 2 hours, just me and Isaiah. That was interesting. It gave him enough time to poop on the toilet though. In the vet's office. Lol, he told everyone in the waiting room when he was done. The nurse gave him stickers! It's the first time in a public bathroom. AND he stayed dry all night last night. Amazing potty training progress.
Tomorrow we have a PPT at his school and he will spend the afternoon at his new daycare. He may start school Friday...or the following Monday. We are all looking forward to getting into a regular schedule...especially JP!
Tonight I am heading to the spa in town for a 1 hour massage! I can't wait!!!
Monday, September 7, 2009
Weekend Update!
Good evening~
Well it has been a beautiful weekend weather wise. We really have been lucky to have such great weather the first week Isaiah has been here.
I was thinking of what to entitle this post and had so many options. So I figured I would list all the options and then explain the occurrence that made me think of them.
1. I need a bigger purse: Seriously, I HATE carrying around big purses, but with wipes and neosporin and everything else that comes along with a 3 year old, I now understand why some women carry purses that really look like carry on luggage. Today we went to the fair and I just made Isaiah carry his back pack with everything in it...including the camera. LOL, he loves to wear a back pack...what's the big deal???
2. Poop success: Isaiah has pooped successfully in the toilet TWICE since my last update. There has been huge progress in the potty training area. In fact today we left the house and napped in big boy pants with zero accidents. We also had to use a port a potty at the fair (vomit) but we avoided any accidents! YEAH!
3. "Is she a delivery person or something?" This is a quote by Gabe. We were watching Dora THE EXPLORER and he asked about the premise of the show. I explained that she has to help people by getting something from one place to another. He asked...so she is a delivery person or something....no she is an EXPLORER! That was a big laugh!
4. Grown up fun. Both Saturday and Sunday night, Gabe and I enjoyed our chiminea outside. It was so beautiful out and there was a full moon, we just sat out there with some adult beverages and relaxed! Saturday it was just the 2 of us after Isaiah went to bed and last night we had some friends over and let Isaiah come out and roast a marshmallow before bed. He inhaled it whole and nearly choked on it. I think he even scared himself.
So we ventured to a local fair today, just me and Isaiah while Gabe rested his sore back. We rode some rides and had lunch. He got a hot dog, instantly had it slip through his fingers and then got another hot dog!
Well it has been a beautiful weekend weather wise. We really have been lucky to have such great weather the first week Isaiah has been here.
I was thinking of what to entitle this post and had so many options. So I figured I would list all the options and then explain the occurrence that made me think of them.
1. I need a bigger purse: Seriously, I HATE carrying around big purses, but with wipes and neosporin and everything else that comes along with a 3 year old, I now understand why some women carry purses that really look like carry on luggage. Today we went to the fair and I just made Isaiah carry his back pack with everything in it...including the camera. LOL, he loves to wear a back pack...what's the big deal???
2. Poop success: Isaiah has pooped successfully in the toilet TWICE since my last update. There has been huge progress in the potty training area. In fact today we left the house and napped in big boy pants with zero accidents. We also had to use a port a potty at the fair (vomit) but we avoided any accidents! YEAH!
3. "Is she a delivery person or something?" This is a quote by Gabe. We were watching Dora THE EXPLORER and he asked about the premise of the show. I explained that she has to help people by getting something from one place to another. He asked...so she is a delivery person or something....no she is an EXPLORER! That was a big laugh!
4. Grown up fun. Both Saturday and Sunday night, Gabe and I enjoyed our chiminea outside. It was so beautiful out and there was a full moon, we just sat out there with some adult beverages and relaxed! Saturday it was just the 2 of us after Isaiah went to bed and last night we had some friends over and let Isaiah come out and roast a marshmallow before bed. He inhaled it whole and nearly choked on it. I think he even scared himself.
So we ventured to a local fair today, just me and Isaiah while Gabe rested his sore back. We rode some rides and had lunch. He got a hot dog, instantly had it slip through his fingers and then got another hot dog!
Tomorrow we attend a hearing in court. We have NO idea what it is about. We received a letter on Saturday indicating a hearing this coming Tuesday and next Tuesday. Luckily my mom will be able to come and stay with Isaiah tomorrow morning and next week he will be in school. Talk about short notice. I am not really sure what to expect..not sure if Mom will be there, not sure what the reasoning is...I am just referring back to not anticipating things. Either way it will be an interesting day. I also start back to work tomorrow. Interesting all right!
Until then...
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Friday, September 4, 2009
This is a WEIRD experience!
As I write tonight we are on our 7th night. Last night was interesting. I was up a total of 3 times at various hours. Once at 11:30 when Isaiah fell out of bed. Once at 4am when JP had diarrhea and again with JP at 5am. Each time I woke up I felt horrible. Like I was hungover, but wasn't. This morning when I woke up I still felt badly but rested a bit while Gabe fed the wee one. I am feeling better now and think it was just the disrupted night.
Today, Isaiah spent most of the day outside, since it was beautiful again in CT. He is really mastering his bike now, even making turns. He played baseball and golf and of course the sidewalk chalk.
Today we were anticipating his visit with his mom all day. I think that is why my stomach was sick most of the day. We just didn't know WHAT to expect. Isaiah took a nap and then got ready to see his mom. He was very excited to see her. As we drove there, Gabe and I were on pins and needles. When we arrived she was not there yet so we left Isaiah playing with the social worker and jetted. We figured it would be a smoother meet and greet at the end of their visit. Gabe and I went down the road to Target for some shopping. Nice and therapeutic. As we finished our shopping, I got the weirdest feeling in my stomach. I stopped into the ladies room and just talked to myself and said, this experience is so WEIRD. Like, we are now going to pick up this little boy from visiting his mother and take him back home with us. And we will be friendly to her, but then take her son. WEIRD. Nauseatingly weird.
When we got there I held back my vomit and was pleasantly surprised. Mom was very friendly and instantly commented on how much better Isaiah looks since last week when she saw him and he was at the foster home. She said his speech was better and he looked happier and cleaner and she thanked us. We chatted a bit and she asked a few things about him and his transition.
We started a communication log to go back and forth and in it I placed a pouch for pictures we take of him. We will copy the great ones and give her them too. Well today she got a copy of Isaiah riding his bike yesterday and she wept. She was so happy to see it and so thankful for us sharing it with her. She asked, "is this for me??" Absolutely.
Unfortunately it became clear where Isaiah gets his food issues from when she told us she brought him donuts and chocolate milk and he ate something like 4 donuts. I believe her quote was "I may have ruined his dinner tonight". She was right, he didn't eat a thing for dinner.
BUT that is not for us to address, the worker will address that and I will now know not to give him chocolate milk on Fridays because she will!
In the past, Isaiah has cried after every visit with mom when he had to leave. Today she walked him to our car, helped him get into the seat and thanked us again! No tears.
See, it is weird. Surreal. Unique. Difficult.
He was quiet for about 20 minutes in the car ride then he got back to his chatty self again...only amplified X4...for each donut. He was very energetic tonight and helped me put away some things we got at Target. We also put together a collage frame of the pictures his mom sent to hang in his room. He loved that project.
So, we are now winding down and reflecting on the day. Anticipation can be a devilish thing, both good and bad. It certainly played tricks on my body over the past 12 hours.
Tomorrow..I have no idea what we are going to do...perhaps I just shouldn't anticipate anything.
Until then...
Thursday, September 3, 2009
I don't really like my new haircut
Greetings and Salutations~
I just thought I would start out tonight's blog saying that I don't really like my new haircut. It is nothing drastic, and I hope it is still lin the shock phase after the cut, but eh...
On to other things. Today was a decent day. Gabe got up and went to play golf so it was me and buddy solo during the morning. We ran a bunch of errands, one of which was looking for a small back pack for him for school....this is hard for such a little guy. Any tips???
This afternoon, Isaiah did great on his bike, as evidenced by the below picture. He was so happy for himself....as were we. Then he napped and when he woke up we went on another day care shopping trip. This time it was a huge success. We found a great day care that has openings and we all loved the visit. It was GREAT! We will go back tomorrow and fill out paperwork and he will spend a little time there next week before transitioning there and to school the week after.
He loved it!
Tonight we had meatloaf and mashed potatoes on the menu and he chowed down...of course.
We continue to have struggles with meal times...he always wants more but we have been leaving out fruits and veggies for him every day and when he gets hungry he can eat them. But the meal times are tricky.
Tomorrow he has a visit with his mom and we just have no idea what to expect of that.
Until then...
I just thought I would start out tonight's blog saying that I don't really like my new haircut. It is nothing drastic, and I hope it is still lin the shock phase after the cut, but eh...
On to other things. Today was a decent day. Gabe got up and went to play golf so it was me and buddy solo during the morning. We ran a bunch of errands, one of which was looking for a small back pack for him for school....this is hard for such a little guy. Any tips???
This afternoon, Isaiah did great on his bike, as evidenced by the below picture. He was so happy for himself....as were we. Then he napped and when he woke up we went on another day care shopping trip. This time it was a huge success. We found a great day care that has openings and we all loved the visit. It was GREAT! We will go back tomorrow and fill out paperwork and he will spend a little time there next week before transitioning there and to school the week after.
He loved it!
Tonight we had meatloaf and mashed potatoes on the menu and he chowed down...of course.
We continue to have struggles with meal times...he always wants more but we have been leaving out fruits and veggies for him every day and when he gets hungry he can eat them. But the meal times are tricky.
Tomorrow he has a visit with his mom and we just have no idea what to expect of that.
Until then...
BIG Day!
We learned to pedal our bike today. Thanks, Auntie Paula. We don't even care that it is purple!
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Seriously, Bipolar!
Good evening~
It has been gorgeous here all week. We are so lucky that this is the first week we have Isaiah and we are both off with such great weather. Today was another good day. See the pattern...good, bad, good. Thus the title of tonight's post. A lot of people emailed me after last night's post and if I summarized all their comments it would be "welcome to parenting". I am comforted...a little!
Today we started out with a fresh slate. Had a great breakfast and went outside to use the sidewalk chalk....in his brand new school shoes. CURSES! Once we realized, the crocs went on the Fred Flinstone feet. That was a little better.
Then it was time for a bath and to shop for day care. We visited one center but didn't really get a good vibe from the owner. I think what did it was a. she fed him 2 cups of animal crackers right before lunch without asking us, b. she walked through policies and told us "please pick him up on time...i don't want to have to call DCF on you for not picking up on time". Now I have called DCF on a number of parents in my life and NEVER has it been for a late daycare pick up. What IS it with some people?
Isaiah didn't want to leave there...nor would I at 3 years old with the bottomless animal cracker cup. He had a little fit but then we moved on. He took a nap and then we went on another adventure...sneaker shopping and grocery shopping at Stew Leonard's. Oh did I mention that on his way to nap he whacked his head on his bed and now has an egg? Right smack dab in the forehead. His mother will LOVE this when she seems him Friday for their visit.
He did great in the shoe store and got himself some sweet kicks...which will not go out to sidewalk chalk playtime. Then we went grocery shopping. He couldn't go into the front of a cart because...well, he weighs too much. They didn't have any of those "car" carts, which I hate anyways...so the little man walked the entire store with us. Along the way, he put stuff in the cart, picked out stuff he liked and replaced the Oreos that fell from the Oreo tower, which he knocked down. We left there totally unscathed and I stopped on the way out and thought, how on earth does a 3 year old do an hours worth of grocery shopping with ZERO problems but yet has a total meltdown in the doctor's office? The missing element...the nap. Had it today, didn't yesterday. All hail the nap.
So Gabe and I are settling in and having an evening cocktail while we catch up on some shows. Isaiah is in bed, but chatting to himself right now. Tomorrow is another new adventure.
Until then...
HA Just got summoned to the upstairs for help. Poop explosion in the pull up.....Sip the cocktail.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
We feel Bipolar!
Good evening~
So today was rough. We were on such a high from yesterday and now feel so low today. Thus the title of the post. Today was rough. I think I already said that.
We started the day ok. Isaiah spent most of the day testing limits...particularly around the stairs, which resulted in him slipping down a few stairs and having the crap scared out of himself. He then got mad at us. Huh? We told you not to go down the stairs til we got there. Where is the logic there?
Then we went to get him new shoes. They are cute!!! He was very happy to get new shoes. His shoes were a size too small, thus the difficulty getting them on his Fred Flinstone feet. Then we hit McDonald's for lunch. He CHEERED when we pulled in. This will not be a regular occurrence. Clearly it was for him in the past. Cheering on the way in, crying when we left. It made me sad.
Then he had to go for his annual check up at the pediatrician, where he spent a lot of time with his mom due to frequent asthma issues. So as soon as we turned into the parking lot, he was asking for Mommy. Forget the fact that it was his nap time. Then, get this...we walked into the most overstimulating pediatrician's office I have ever seen. Apparently one of the doctors collects things...creepy things. Harry Potter things, star wars things, comic things. All on display but not to be touched. Um, this is a place where tons of kids go each day. Combine that with a nurse who continually called us Mommy and Daddy to Isaiah despite us correcting her, called Isaiah Isreal and reeked of cigarette smoke. None of us were pleased! The difference was that Isaiah could flop on the floor and scream and we could NOT! Damn it.
The evening was okay but there seems to be a recurring theme of getting mad when mealtime is done. He always wants MORE!
He finally went to sleep around 8:30 but that, too, was a battle. So I am typing thru some tears tonight but knowing this will happen in the process. Perhaps I needed a nap too.
Tomorrow we go check out a home daycare for him. Let's hope it is a better day.
Until then...
So today was rough. We were on such a high from yesterday and now feel so low today. Thus the title of the post. Today was rough. I think I already said that.
We started the day ok. Isaiah spent most of the day testing limits...particularly around the stairs, which resulted in him slipping down a few stairs and having the crap scared out of himself. He then got mad at us. Huh? We told you not to go down the stairs til we got there. Where is the logic there?
Then we went to get him new shoes. They are cute!!! He was very happy to get new shoes. His shoes were a size too small, thus the difficulty getting them on his Fred Flinstone feet. Then we hit McDonald's for lunch. He CHEERED when we pulled in. This will not be a regular occurrence. Clearly it was for him in the past. Cheering on the way in, crying when we left. It made me sad.
Then he had to go for his annual check up at the pediatrician, where he spent a lot of time with his mom due to frequent asthma issues. So as soon as we turned into the parking lot, he was asking for Mommy. Forget the fact that it was his nap time. Then, get this...we walked into the most overstimulating pediatrician's office I have ever seen. Apparently one of the doctors collects things...creepy things. Harry Potter things, star wars things, comic things. All on display but not to be touched. Um, this is a place where tons of kids go each day. Combine that with a nurse who continually called us Mommy and Daddy to Isaiah despite us correcting her, called Isaiah Isreal and reeked of cigarette smoke. None of us were pleased! The difference was that Isaiah could flop on the floor and scream and we could NOT! Damn it.
The evening was okay but there seems to be a recurring theme of getting mad when mealtime is done. He always wants MORE!
He finally went to sleep around 8:30 but that, too, was a battle. So I am typing thru some tears tonight but knowing this will happen in the process. Perhaps I needed a nap too.
Tomorrow we go check out a home daycare for him. Let's hope it is a better day.
Until then...
Monday, August 31, 2009
In bed by 7:30!
Good evening~
Gabe and I are settled in watching some football and relaxing. It has been a busy couple of days in Colchester.
We will start with yesterday. My mom had an emergency shower for us to help us get things we need. Well, did we ever. People came out in droves and were incredibly generous. All non essential items are hiding in the basement for a gradual roll out. He will have enough toys to last the rest of the year!!! He came to the end of the shower briefly, had some cake and, being a little overwhelmed, left early. He did have a chance to play some basketball and football with the boys. It was cute! Pictures will be posted.
Today was a nice day. Gabe and I were both home most of the day. I had a couple of clients I had to see this afternoon. This morning, Gabe went out to wash the cars and Isaiah wanted to sit in the car. Literally. He climbed up in his car seat, with his cup and stuffed toy and played for an hour while Gabe washed the cars. It was hilarious. I thought, if DCF could see us now...with the kid in his car seat for an hour.
Some milestones met today:
*Out of sheer hunger Isaiah ate a plate of veggies as a snack!
*About 5pm, for the first time since we have had him, Isaiah pooped...on the toilet! Double celebration!
*Last week when he stayed over for the first time, he didn't fall asleep until 8:45. Tonight, he was in bed at 7:30pm!
We are gradually figuring things out. Tomorrow's challenge will be...no nap. He had a prescheduled appoitnment with his pediatrician for 1pm so we will drive nearly an hour for that...right smack dab in the middle of lunch and nap time. I suppose that will mean an early bed time!!!
Until then...
Gabe and I are settled in watching some football and relaxing. It has been a busy couple of days in Colchester.
We will start with yesterday. My mom had an emergency shower for us to help us get things we need. Well, did we ever. People came out in droves and were incredibly generous. All non essential items are hiding in the basement for a gradual roll out. He will have enough toys to last the rest of the year!!! He came to the end of the shower briefly, had some cake and, being a little overwhelmed, left early. He did have a chance to play some basketball and football with the boys. It was cute! Pictures will be posted.
Today was a nice day. Gabe and I were both home most of the day. I had a couple of clients I had to see this afternoon. This morning, Gabe went out to wash the cars and Isaiah wanted to sit in the car. Literally. He climbed up in his car seat, with his cup and stuffed toy and played for an hour while Gabe washed the cars. It was hilarious. I thought, if DCF could see us now...with the kid in his car seat for an hour.
Some milestones met today:
*Out of sheer hunger Isaiah ate a plate of veggies as a snack!
*About 5pm, for the first time since we have had him, Isaiah pooped...on the toilet! Double celebration!
*Last week when he stayed over for the first time, he didn't fall asleep until 8:45. Tonight, he was in bed at 7:30pm!
We are gradually figuring things out. Tomorrow's challenge will be...no nap. He had a prescheduled appoitnment with his pediatrician for 1pm so we will drive nearly an hour for that...right smack dab in the middle of lunch and nap time. I suppose that will mean an early bed time!!!
Until then...
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Day one: check!
Good evening from Casa Carr!
Gabe and I are sitting in the living room watching some preseason football listening to Isaiah talk to himself in his bed. WE SURVIVED the first day...well 3/4 of a day.
When we arrived at his foster home, he was READY to go. Seriously, like out the door. It was a dismal rainy day so we scurried into the car with him and all his stuff and made the journey to Colchester. He snoozed on the way.
We settled in and got situated. Had some lunch and then it was nap time. Gabe had to run a couple of errands so I was flying solo. Had to use my stern voice a couple of times, but we survived. Overall, it was a very nice day. Only a little bit of testing, as to be expected.
Once we had dinner and settled in for some evening Dora, Isaiah got snuggly. He wanted to get up on the couch with me and JP. So we snuggled. I think I was more nervous than he was. He snuggled right in and loved on JP (who better stop pooping in the house, by the way).
As soon as the darkness set in, he knew it was bed time. He brushed his teeth, of course and got up in bed. Gabe read him two stories and we said goodnight. As I finish this post, there is no chatting coming from upstairs!
For the first day, I am amazed. As I was preparing dinner I thought, holy crap, we can actually do this. Well, so far anyway.
Gabe and I are both tense this evening but we imagine that will wear off as time goes on. Below is a picture of us snuggling!
Tomorrow is the Emergency Shower, which received more 'yes' RSVP's than I could have EVER imagined. People really amaze me with their well wishes and generosity.
Until then...
Gabe and I are sitting in the living room watching some preseason football listening to Isaiah talk to himself in his bed. WE SURVIVED the first day...well 3/4 of a day.
When we arrived at his foster home, he was READY to go. Seriously, like out the door. It was a dismal rainy day so we scurried into the car with him and all his stuff and made the journey to Colchester. He snoozed on the way.
We settled in and got situated. Had some lunch and then it was nap time. Gabe had to run a couple of errands so I was flying solo. Had to use my stern voice a couple of times, but we survived. Overall, it was a very nice day. Only a little bit of testing, as to be expected.
Once we had dinner and settled in for some evening Dora, Isaiah got snuggly. He wanted to get up on the couch with me and JP. So we snuggled. I think I was more nervous than he was. He snuggled right in and loved on JP (who better stop pooping in the house, by the way).
As soon as the darkness set in, he knew it was bed time. He brushed his teeth, of course and got up in bed. Gabe read him two stories and we said goodnight. As I finish this post, there is no chatting coming from upstairs!
For the first day, I am amazed. As I was preparing dinner I thought, holy crap, we can actually do this. Well, so far anyway.
Gabe and I are both tense this evening but we imagine that will wear off as time goes on. Below is a picture of us snuggling!
Tomorrow is the Emergency Shower, which received more 'yes' RSVP's than I could have EVER imagined. People really amaze me with their well wishes and generosity.
Until then...
Up and at 'em!
Good morning from Rainy SE CT! Blach, it is nasty outside. We have a tropical storm or something hovering around us so the weather is crummy. We don't really care though. (;
This morning we are up cleaning the house and kid proofing areas for the arrival of Isaiah.
JP is thrilled, so much so that the FIRST thing he did this morning was go into Isaiah's room...and poop! Seriously, this dog doesn't poop in the house. This is now the SECOND gift he has left in that room for us to clean up. We think he is sending us a message. We will not be swayed. Well, I am heartbroken for his anxiety but Gabe keeps reassuring me he will be fine!
So we are heading out in an hour or so. The house is clean and strategically set up. Gabe has left Cleveland Browns items through out the house hoping for subliminal messages to sink in. HA! We have a few toys around the house for him as not to overwhelm him and his room...well that has been ready of course.
We will keep you posted as our day progresses!
Until then...
This morning we are up cleaning the house and kid proofing areas for the arrival of Isaiah.
JP is thrilled, so much so that the FIRST thing he did this morning was go into Isaiah's room...and poop! Seriously, this dog doesn't poop in the house. This is now the SECOND gift he has left in that room for us to clean up. We think he is sending us a message. We will not be swayed. Well, I am heartbroken for his anxiety but Gabe keeps reassuring me he will be fine!
So we are heading out in an hour or so. The house is clean and strategically set up. Gabe has left Cleveland Browns items through out the house hoping for subliminal messages to sink in. HA! We have a few toys around the house for him as not to overwhelm him and his room...well that has been ready of course.
We will keep you posted as our day progresses!
Until then...
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
That's my bed!
Greetings~
Isaiah came over yesterday for his first over night at Casa Carr. I went to pick him up about 4pm and we traveled to Colchester. He was very chatty in the car ride and in a pretty good mood.
Gabe got home shortly after us and we settled in for dinner; Sloppy Joe's, French Fries and Green Beans. The Green Beans were turned upside down on the table in no time but he did eat one in an effort to get the fries.
We all enjoyed dinner and then headed out to the playground at the local school. We had fun, he had a lot of fun. JP got a nice walk out of it too. When we got home, it was time for cookies and settling down. Small tantrum about wanting to eat the cookies on the couch...but he got over it. As the night wore on we got ready for bed, HE LOVES TO BRUSH HIS TEETH! It was too funny.
Bedtime was a struggle but we know now that it is because he normally goes to bed around 8:30 and we had him in a hour earlier. But we did the bedtime thing, reading books, rocking and saying goodnight. Another larger tantrum and the repeated notification that he didn't want to go to bed...along with a side of "I'm Scared". He was finally out by 8:45. Nice!
This morning was nice, he got up, brushed his teeth and got dressed. Had some breakfast and played. Brushed his teeth again...not even kidding.
His DCF social worker showed up about 9:30am to get him and have us sign some paperwork to finalize him living with us. This is where I got emotional (see previous post for reasons why). Because of her schedule and our schedule, today was the only day we could sign papers even though we are picking him up on Saturday. DCF Worker thought my "tears of joy" were sweet. HA, Tears of FEAR LADY! She felt that was appropriate as well.
At the end of paper signing, I asked Isaiah if he wanted to show her the upstairs. He jumped down from his seat and ran to show her. When he got into his room he showed her his toys and puzzles and said "that's my bed...my bed!" We felt that was a good sign.
So Saturday we go, mid morning, and pick him up...for good. Gabe and I are super excited...and scared....but I think I already mentioned that. Below is a pic of him from this morning after breakfast. We have finally got the OK to take and post pictures!
Isaiah came over yesterday for his first over night at Casa Carr. I went to pick him up about 4pm and we traveled to Colchester. He was very chatty in the car ride and in a pretty good mood.
Gabe got home shortly after us and we settled in for dinner; Sloppy Joe's, French Fries and Green Beans. The Green Beans were turned upside down on the table in no time but he did eat one in an effort to get the fries.
We all enjoyed dinner and then headed out to the playground at the local school. We had fun, he had a lot of fun. JP got a nice walk out of it too. When we got home, it was time for cookies and settling down. Small tantrum about wanting to eat the cookies on the couch...but he got over it. As the night wore on we got ready for bed, HE LOVES TO BRUSH HIS TEETH! It was too funny.
Bedtime was a struggle but we know now that it is because he normally goes to bed around 8:30 and we had him in a hour earlier. But we did the bedtime thing, reading books, rocking and saying goodnight. Another larger tantrum and the repeated notification that he didn't want to go to bed...along with a side of "I'm Scared". He was finally out by 8:45. Nice!
This morning was nice, he got up, brushed his teeth and got dressed. Had some breakfast and played. Brushed his teeth again...not even kidding.
His DCF social worker showed up about 9:30am to get him and have us sign some paperwork to finalize him living with us. This is where I got emotional (see previous post for reasons why). Because of her schedule and our schedule, today was the only day we could sign papers even though we are picking him up on Saturday. DCF Worker thought my "tears of joy" were sweet. HA, Tears of FEAR LADY! She felt that was appropriate as well.
At the end of paper signing, I asked Isaiah if he wanted to show her the upstairs. He jumped down from his seat and ran to show her. When he got into his room he showed her his toys and puzzles and said "that's my bed...my bed!" We felt that was a good sign.
So Saturday we go, mid morning, and pick him up...for good. Gabe and I are super excited...and scared....but I think I already mentioned that. Below is a pic of him from this morning after breakfast. We have finally got the OK to take and post pictures!
Sit with the Feelings!
Hello!
Two entries today...it was that big of an experience!
Now as a therapist I am constantly encouraging my clients to "sit with their feelings". You know, feel them..don't avoid them, don't change behaviors to make them go away. If something is sad, acknowledge it and be sad. If something scares you, be scared.
As Gabe and I laid in bed last night after getting Isaiah to sleep, I acknowledged my FEAR! Big fear. I had to because I found myself wanting to say, No-we can't do this...because I was scared. Changing behaviors to avoid the feelings. Then I started talking to myself...all while Gabe wanted to sleep. Telling myself that it is normal to be scared, we face a lot of unknown things ahead of us. Talking myself down from a panic attack.
Gabe and I are sitting in a LOT of feelings right now. The good news is that we are talking about it and normalizing it for one another. Thank goodness he is here or, out of fear, I may have called DCF to pick the kid up at 10pm last night. Not for anything HE did, but from fear.
So, we are just going to sit in this, let it be what it is and take it one step at a time! When I think about it that way...excitement creeps in next to the fear!
Thank you to all of you for your support and love. We are both incredibly blessed to have so many caring family members and friends to be a part of this experience with us. We never could get through this roller coaster without you!
Two entries today...it was that big of an experience!
Now as a therapist I am constantly encouraging my clients to "sit with their feelings". You know, feel them..don't avoid them, don't change behaviors to make them go away. If something is sad, acknowledge it and be sad. If something scares you, be scared.
As Gabe and I laid in bed last night after getting Isaiah to sleep, I acknowledged my FEAR! Big fear. I had to because I found myself wanting to say, No-we can't do this...because I was scared. Changing behaviors to avoid the feelings. Then I started talking to myself...all while Gabe wanted to sleep. Telling myself that it is normal to be scared, we face a lot of unknown things ahead of us. Talking myself down from a panic attack.
Gabe and I are sitting in a LOT of feelings right now. The good news is that we are talking about it and normalizing it for one another. Thank goodness he is here or, out of fear, I may have called DCF to pick the kid up at 10pm last night. Not for anything HE did, but from fear.
So, we are just going to sit in this, let it be what it is and take it one step at a time! When I think about it that way...excitement creeps in next to the fear!
Thank you to all of you for your support and love. We are both incredibly blessed to have so many caring family members and friends to be a part of this experience with us. We never could get through this roller coaster without you!
Monday, August 24, 2009
The Room - video!
Here is a video of the room we have made up for Isaiah. Overnight starts tonight at 4pm!
Sunday, August 23, 2009
S-A-TUR-DAY Night!
Last night Gabe and I headed down town to our local pub, which we love. Our good friend Paula joined us and we had some drinks and dinner.
We were in a celebratorious mood after our good visit and decided to do just that: celebrate. After dinner and drinks we headed back to our house where Paula delivered a mattress she is letting us borrow for the time being. We sat outside and talked and had another cocktail. We needed to talk with someone else about all this stuff, I think.
After Paula left we got Isaiah's bed together. I have really been DYING to open up the cute IKEA bedding we bought him. So we dusted off the bed and made it up nicely. JP was curious so we put him up there and he settled right in. Too funny.
We sat on the floor just chatting about this adventure and what lies ahead of us...mostly the unknown....the fear.
My mom went ahead and sent out invitations for a shower for us next weekend and we realized this is really happening. It's hard not to be emotional.
As I woke up this morning...with a slight headache from the celebrating, I realized, that may have been the last kidless Saturday night in this house. Oh how life is going to change.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
On our turf!
(Just so you know, I had to try to type the word "turf" 3 times before I got it right)
Ok, so hellloooo there! Although it is early afternoon, we have been up and at em since 6am! We had to go out and do a "kid friendly" grocery shopping trip so we could feed Isaiah when he came over today. So yes, we will again be settling in for an afternoon nap.
Isaiah came over today about 10am. He was dressed in Red Sox gear!!! although I don't really think he knows them from any other team. But he has told us numerous times that he likes baseball! He was shy today, but not to Gabe. In fact he came into the house and hid behind Gabe from me. This is progress. We all settled into the living room and he ran back and forth from the kitchen to the front door...not quite ready to come in and get settled. He eyeballed JP a little bit.
He spotted some bananas and asked for one. Gabe gave him half, he inhaled it and asked for the other half. Gabe gave him that, he ate it and asked for more. Um, no. He didn't like that so we distracted him and went upstairs to play in "his" room. He settled right in and played with the moon Sand Barbie had brought over. Um, it is blue. And sand. You can imagine what our tan carpet now looks like. Actually it came up fine but we smiled knowing that my mom would LOVE to know he played with her toy...and made a mess for me to clean up all at the same time.
He made us all pizza with the moon sand and came over and brought pieces to Gabe, me and JP, repeatedly.
Then we moved onto blocks. He got a little agressive with the blocks. He made a house, Gabe made a house and he wanted to "break Gabe's house". After he was not redirected, he ended up in time out, which he accepted easily. He watched me like a HAWK as I cleaned up the blue sand while he was in time out. We found out why later. Why he is always watching me sooo closely. We'll get to that.
So we cleaned up the blocks, creatively, as fast as we can and we moved on. He went to the bathroom on his own on the big toilet and was so happy to have done so. We bought a step stool for him to climb up onto the toilet and to the sink for his hands and he loved his step stool. He moved it all over the bathroom to use it and then put it back in it's place. He also told us that he "farted".
As we sat down to have lunch, hot dogs, I gave him a plastic placemat to put his stuff on. This is an old school placemat that my grandpa made for me when I was a kid. On it was a picture of me when I was younger in front of my birthday cake. Isaiah looked at it, pointed to me and said something about his mommy. I asked him if that looks like his mommy and he said yes. His adoption worker then confirmed that I have a strong resemblance to his mother. Well no wonder he is trying so hard to figure me out! Makes sense.
We had hot dogs and gold fish and juice for lunch. He wanted another hot dog, of course, but instead he got a dessert of banana yogurt. He loved it and said please and thank you for everything. He also put his foot on my knee under the table and rubbed it around, smiling at me. LOL, he is getting comfy here.
At the end of the visit, he didn't want to leave. (that's a good sign, right). We promised he could come back and play with us again. He walked out to the car and kept turning around to see if we were there, waving at us. He really didn't seem to want to leave.
Tomorrow we process all this, make a list of questions for DCF on Monday and, as long as they have good answers to those questions, prepare for an overnight Monday night.
Until then...
Ok, so hellloooo there! Although it is early afternoon, we have been up and at em since 6am! We had to go out and do a "kid friendly" grocery shopping trip so we could feed Isaiah when he came over today. So yes, we will again be settling in for an afternoon nap.
Isaiah came over today about 10am. He was dressed in Red Sox gear!!! although I don't really think he knows them from any other team. But he has told us numerous times that he likes baseball! He was shy today, but not to Gabe. In fact he came into the house and hid behind Gabe from me. This is progress. We all settled into the living room and he ran back and forth from the kitchen to the front door...not quite ready to come in and get settled. He eyeballed JP a little bit.
He spotted some bananas and asked for one. Gabe gave him half, he inhaled it and asked for the other half. Gabe gave him that, he ate it and asked for more. Um, no. He didn't like that so we distracted him and went upstairs to play in "his" room. He settled right in and played with the moon Sand Barbie had brought over. Um, it is blue. And sand. You can imagine what our tan carpet now looks like. Actually it came up fine but we smiled knowing that my mom would LOVE to know he played with her toy...and made a mess for me to clean up all at the same time.
He made us all pizza with the moon sand and came over and brought pieces to Gabe, me and JP, repeatedly.
Then we moved onto blocks. He got a little agressive with the blocks. He made a house, Gabe made a house and he wanted to "break Gabe's house". After he was not redirected, he ended up in time out, which he accepted easily. He watched me like a HAWK as I cleaned up the blue sand while he was in time out. We found out why later. Why he is always watching me sooo closely. We'll get to that.
So we cleaned up the blocks, creatively, as fast as we can and we moved on. He went to the bathroom on his own on the big toilet and was so happy to have done so. We bought a step stool for him to climb up onto the toilet and to the sink for his hands and he loved his step stool. He moved it all over the bathroom to use it and then put it back in it's place. He also told us that he "farted".
As we sat down to have lunch, hot dogs, I gave him a plastic placemat to put his stuff on. This is an old school placemat that my grandpa made for me when I was a kid. On it was a picture of me when I was younger in front of my birthday cake. Isaiah looked at it, pointed to me and said something about his mommy. I asked him if that looks like his mommy and he said yes. His adoption worker then confirmed that I have a strong resemblance to his mother. Well no wonder he is trying so hard to figure me out! Makes sense.
We had hot dogs and gold fish and juice for lunch. He wanted another hot dog, of course, but instead he got a dessert of banana yogurt. He loved it and said please and thank you for everything. He also put his foot on my knee under the table and rubbed it around, smiling at me. LOL, he is getting comfy here.
At the end of the visit, he didn't want to leave. (that's a good sign, right). We promised he could come back and play with us again. He walked out to the car and kept turning around to see if we were there, waving at us. He really didn't seem to want to leave.
Tomorrow we process all this, make a list of questions for DCF on Monday and, as long as they have good answers to those questions, prepare for an overnight Monday night.
Until then...
Friday, August 21, 2009
"I don't like girls!"
Greetings~
Gabe and I just woke up from a mid afternoon nap! It was needed after our morning with Isaiah! That and we may have been too anxious to get a good night's sleep last night.
We got up and headed out to the foster home for 9:30 and our little friend was ready...but not in a great mood. Foster mom said he was being "stubborn" and had already had 2 time outs that morning. He climbed into his new car seat (which matches my car perfectly) and off we went to the library.
He had clearly been there before because he knew exactly where to go. Before we could go in though he had to pick up a tissue he threw on the floor in the lobby and that was a waiting game.
He didn't want to do it. So we walked in without him and turned the corner. As soon as we were out of sight, he picked up the tissue and threw it away. Small victory.
He did puzzles and became chatty. He is pretty bright, knew animals and shapes in the puzzles. Then a little girl came to the table to do a puzzle and he just stared at her. This is when he declared "I don't like girls!". I aked him, "so you don't like me?" NOPE! He said "I like him" and pointed to Gabe. Despite his dislike he obeyed me and held my hand occasionally!
From there we hit the mall play ground. He was getting tired and hungry, as indicated by his wide eyes when he saw Sabarro Pizza! We agreed to get pizza for lunch after playing a little. He did well playing, even when a little boy randomly came up and pushed him. He looked at me and pointed to the little boy. All the while I am thinking, Isaiah, you can take him. BAD BAD thoughts! But he didn't get aggressive and push back, just sought us out for reassurance.
He got pretty whiney on the way to lunch and this is when he started to ask for his mom. Today we saw some real tears about that and told him that we know he misses his mom and that it is ok. By the time he ate FOUR small pieces of pizza and strategically placed a carrott onto my plate from his plate he was ready to go. More crying for mommy in the car and then, poof, he was out! He agreed to hang out with us again tomorrow, this time at our house! He will get to meet JP!
Until then...
Gabe and I just woke up from a mid afternoon nap! It was needed after our morning with Isaiah! That and we may have been too anxious to get a good night's sleep last night.
We got up and headed out to the foster home for 9:30 and our little friend was ready...but not in a great mood. Foster mom said he was being "stubborn" and had already had 2 time outs that morning. He climbed into his new car seat (which matches my car perfectly) and off we went to the library.
He had clearly been there before because he knew exactly where to go. Before we could go in though he had to pick up a tissue he threw on the floor in the lobby and that was a waiting game.
He didn't want to do it. So we walked in without him and turned the corner. As soon as we were out of sight, he picked up the tissue and threw it away. Small victory.
He did puzzles and became chatty. He is pretty bright, knew animals and shapes in the puzzles. Then a little girl came to the table to do a puzzle and he just stared at her. This is when he declared "I don't like girls!". I aked him, "so you don't like me?" NOPE! He said "I like him" and pointed to Gabe. Despite his dislike he obeyed me and held my hand occasionally!
From there we hit the mall play ground. He was getting tired and hungry, as indicated by his wide eyes when he saw Sabarro Pizza! We agreed to get pizza for lunch after playing a little. He did well playing, even when a little boy randomly came up and pushed him. He looked at me and pointed to the little boy. All the while I am thinking, Isaiah, you can take him. BAD BAD thoughts! But he didn't get aggressive and push back, just sought us out for reassurance.
He got pretty whiney on the way to lunch and this is when he started to ask for his mom. Today we saw some real tears about that and told him that we know he misses his mom and that it is ok. By the time he ate FOUR small pieces of pizza and strategically placed a carrott onto my plate from his plate he was ready to go. More crying for mommy in the car and then, poof, he was out! He agreed to hang out with us again tomorrow, this time at our house! He will get to meet JP!
Until then...
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Mini Gabe
Hello all:
Well it has been a long week anticipating today. A long HOT week in CT. The hand on the clock sure moved slowly today as Gabe and I both got up and worked a full day before meeting Isaiah this evening. It was well worth the wait!
He came to the visit with an adoption worker that helps in transition. We met at a local park, by the swings...and the ice cream truck. OF COURSE there was an ice cream truck!
When Isaiah got out of the car he came holding Ginny's hand and was adorable. Head to toe in Navy blue...navy blue tee under navy blue overalls with a side of navy blue crocs! His overalls had firetrucks on them! All boy!
He was very hesitant and hid behind Ginny until he saw the ice cream truck and then he ignored us all until we figured out he wanted ice cream...so Ginny got him some! He ate a chocolate covered chocolate cone...something Gabe would have bought himself if he knew they sold such a thing. He ate it, with his fingers, didn't speak to us and when I gave him a bottle of water to wash it down with...he opened the bottle and poured it on the ground. He was slow to warm up!
But he did...and quicker to Gabe. Why you might ask...well because he IS Gabe at 3 years old. I didn't know Gabe then, and I know he didn't really look like this but if we shrunk him to the size of a 3 year old, Isaiah is what you would have...mini Gabe. And Isaiah wanted to hang with Gabe. Not me. At first.
We played on the playground...you know teeter totter, slides, playscape, climby thing. He began chatting a bit. His speech is not as bad as we initially thought. We certainly understood, 'SPIDER OFF!' when he wanted the spider to go away. (And it was a huge one)
We played for an hour, in 90 degree heat...we all stunk by the end. He came around to me and looked to me for comfort when the big spider got too close...but when I tried to pat his back in comfort he pulled away. We were thrilled. Really. All of his behaviors were so appropriate and "normal" for his age.
He got tired at the end and whined, asking for his mom. We wrapped up the visit with a plan to see him again tomorrow morning. We will pick him up and spend about 3 hours with him on our own. We are both looking forward to it. The car seat is assembled and in the car.
Before leaving his house the adoption worker asked him if he wanted to visit with Beverly and Gabe tomorrow and he enthusiastically said, YES. Thank goodness...what would she have done if he said no?
Until then....
Well it has been a long week anticipating today. A long HOT week in CT. The hand on the clock sure moved slowly today as Gabe and I both got up and worked a full day before meeting Isaiah this evening. It was well worth the wait!
He came to the visit with an adoption worker that helps in transition. We met at a local park, by the swings...and the ice cream truck. OF COURSE there was an ice cream truck!
When Isaiah got out of the car he came holding Ginny's hand and was adorable. Head to toe in Navy blue...navy blue tee under navy blue overalls with a side of navy blue crocs! His overalls had firetrucks on them! All boy!
He was very hesitant and hid behind Ginny until he saw the ice cream truck and then he ignored us all until we figured out he wanted ice cream...so Ginny got him some! He ate a chocolate covered chocolate cone...something Gabe would have bought himself if he knew they sold such a thing. He ate it, with his fingers, didn't speak to us and when I gave him a bottle of water to wash it down with...he opened the bottle and poured it on the ground. He was slow to warm up!
But he did...and quicker to Gabe. Why you might ask...well because he IS Gabe at 3 years old. I didn't know Gabe then, and I know he didn't really look like this but if we shrunk him to the size of a 3 year old, Isaiah is what you would have...mini Gabe. And Isaiah wanted to hang with Gabe. Not me. At first.
We played on the playground...you know teeter totter, slides, playscape, climby thing. He began chatting a bit. His speech is not as bad as we initially thought. We certainly understood, 'SPIDER OFF!' when he wanted the spider to go away. (And it was a huge one)
We played for an hour, in 90 degree heat...we all stunk by the end. He came around to me and looked to me for comfort when the big spider got too close...but when I tried to pat his back in comfort he pulled away. We were thrilled. Really. All of his behaviors were so appropriate and "normal" for his age.
He got tired at the end and whined, asking for his mom. We wrapped up the visit with a plan to see him again tomorrow morning. We will pick him up and spend about 3 hours with him on our own. We are both looking forward to it. The car seat is assembled and in the car.
Before leaving his house the adoption worker asked him if he wanted to visit with Beverly and Gabe tomorrow and he enthusiastically said, YES. Thank goodness...what would she have done if he said no?
Until then....
Thursday, August 13, 2009
It's been a while....
Greetings and Salutations from CT!!!
It has been a looong time since we have updated this blog, mostly because there was little to update...until now.
The last blog update was about Charlie and Bev's Dad. An update on them as well. We have heard that Charlie has been placed with a family and that they have a lot more information than we did on his issues. For that we are thankful and trust that it was the best decision for everyone. Bev's Dad has made a near full recovery. He is home and active and feeling much better!
Onto the present. We have had a lot of time to think about DCF and our involvement with them lately. Some of our thoughts have been pessimistic and others not so much. We had decided that perhaps we would abandon the idea of adopting through DCF since it was taking soooooo long. For a frame of reference, our 2 year license will expire in October!
Just as we decided to perhaps be done with them and move on to making a baby of our own, we got a call about a 2 year old boy named Isaiah! Clearly we are not done with DCF!
We have now had 2 conversations with his DCF worker, one over the phone and one in person. After both, we have a good feeling. There are significant legal risks as we move forward because there is a lot of time for his mom to turn herself around, but with her extensive history, DCF doesn't think that is likely. But it will be a while before he is really legally free for adoption. That is a risk we knew we would face when signing up for this process.
One cool thing is that he has a 14 year old sister, placed with another family, that would eventually become a part of our family if we keep Isaiah. She will not live with us but will continue to visit her brother and hence spend time with us.
He is a BIG boy! The DCF worker keeps saying, NOT FAT, JUST HUSKY! I believe she called him a mini linebacker! Gabe smirked at that.
We plan to meet him next Thursday and if that goes well, spend some time with him next weekend. If we move forward, it will be fast. He will be starting pre school this year and DCF would like him placed where he will start school. We understand that.
So our head has been spinning all day and we have been thinking about what could be ahead of us. It is exciting but scary and we are taking it one step at a time. The next step is our first visit.
Until then...
It has been a looong time since we have updated this blog, mostly because there was little to update...until now.
The last blog update was about Charlie and Bev's Dad. An update on them as well. We have heard that Charlie has been placed with a family and that they have a lot more information than we did on his issues. For that we are thankful and trust that it was the best decision for everyone. Bev's Dad has made a near full recovery. He is home and active and feeling much better!
Onto the present. We have had a lot of time to think about DCF and our involvement with them lately. Some of our thoughts have been pessimistic and others not so much. We had decided that perhaps we would abandon the idea of adopting through DCF since it was taking soooooo long. For a frame of reference, our 2 year license will expire in October!
Just as we decided to perhaps be done with them and move on to making a baby of our own, we got a call about a 2 year old boy named Isaiah! Clearly we are not done with DCF!
We have now had 2 conversations with his DCF worker, one over the phone and one in person. After both, we have a good feeling. There are significant legal risks as we move forward because there is a lot of time for his mom to turn herself around, but with her extensive history, DCF doesn't think that is likely. But it will be a while before he is really legally free for adoption. That is a risk we knew we would face when signing up for this process.
One cool thing is that he has a 14 year old sister, placed with another family, that would eventually become a part of our family if we keep Isaiah. She will not live with us but will continue to visit her brother and hence spend time with us.
He is a BIG boy! The DCF worker keeps saying, NOT FAT, JUST HUSKY! I believe she called him a mini linebacker! Gabe smirked at that.
We plan to meet him next Thursday and if that goes well, spend some time with him next weekend. If we move forward, it will be fast. He will be starting pre school this year and DCF would like him placed where he will start school. We understand that.
So our head has been spinning all day and we have been thinking about what could be ahead of us. It is exciting but scary and we are taking it one step at a time. The next step is our first visit.
Until then...
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