Happy Lazy Sunday. It is so Fall in CT today. Down right chili. We have the pumpkin candles burning and are already thinking about when we will set a fire in the fireplace! But we LOVE it. It is Fair season all the way and although we missed a big, local fair this weekend, we plan to hit up more as Fall moves ahead.
We have been doing well here in recent weeks. Everyone is settling into a nice routine. Isaiah is learning more and more every day both at daycare and at School. He has been processing his living situation a LOT lately. Lots of questions about why he lives with us now and why he lived with his bio mom when he was a baby. This past week he asked why he wasn't my baby and told Gabe and I that he missed us when he was a baby living with his mom...and that he didn't know our names then. He's right. We know his wheels are turning in his little head and we answer questions the best we can while staying age appropriate. One thing that has helped is our ability to say that he will not be going back to live with his mom and that he will be staying here.
One of the social workers that we are working with has indicated that adoptive children have to navigate through 14 additional phases of life compared to biological children. We are seeing that in real life right now. All we can do is hope that we are helping him understand it all a little better.
We just finished his first homework assignment at the kitchen table. As we got up after completing it I said, "well there will be years of that to come, my friend". His response "What? What you said?" Riiiiight!
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Shocker!
Quick update. There was a court date on Monday. We knew it but blocked it out with everything else going on. DCF reminded us and our attorney was going to be at court for something else anyway. So they all went and we did not. DCF called at about 4pm to say that Isaiah's Mom went to court and voluntarily gave up her parental rights that day. As much as we hoped for this, I cried. I can't imagine what it must have been like for her being that we couldn't let him go after living with him for a year and not having given birth to him. She also stated that she didn't think there should be any further visits because she would be so emotional that it might negatively impact Isaiah. Something we respect but that breaks our heart for him. We hope she reconsiders because we would like them to have a final visit.
We heard from DCF that Mom was devastated when she heard we were having Isaiah move to another family. When she heard we reconsidered she cried tears of joy. In my heart I believe she wanted to help make this easier on him and us as we move forward. For that we are very thankful!
Big week here at Casa Carr. We just want some calm now! CALM I SAY!
We heard from DCF that Mom was devastated when she heard we were having Isaiah move to another family. When she heard we reconsidered she cried tears of joy. In my heart I believe she wanted to help make this easier on him and us as we move forward. For that we are very thankful!
Big week here at Casa Carr. We just want some calm now! CALM I SAY!
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Summer fun
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| Little pirate |
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| Auntie Hannah and Isaiah |
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| Serious talk! |
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| THROW ME! |
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| Jimmy "superfly" Snuka! |
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| First day of Kindercamp |
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| Beach |
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| More Beach |
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| WAVES! |
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| Getting very comfortable in the pool |
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| us! |
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Not the update some of you are expecting!
Hello and...well hello. It's been a while. We hope that you have all had a wonderful summer. It's hard to believe school is starting and that the Fall will soon be upon us. Love it though!!!
Well I have quite an update and the title says it all. Over the past couple of months, the Carrs have gone on an unbelievable roller coaster ride. I won't go in to all of it, but we have endured many many challenges with Isaiah, within ourselves and the the challenge of making the ultimate decision of whether or not we were all a good fit for each other. In the beginning of August, we made the decision to have Isaiah move on from our home. It was a very difficult decision but, at the time, we felt it was best. We began the process of transition, a word I despise now, just for the record. We had extra support services implemented, held off on certain evaluations and waited for DCF to find a suitable family for him. When they did, we even went as far as meeting them and their son to begin the transition (ugh). Then we broke down.
As we thought about Isaiah leaving our home, it seemed unfathomable. We didn't know how we would actually pack his things and put him in a car to move away. We cried...usually daily...about the transition. (blach) We even talked as though it might not happen and secretly wished the new family wouldn't feel comfortable moving forward. After meeting them and learning how wonderful they were, we felt worse, not better. We knew he could do well there, but just didn't think we could let go. So we aren't! We went back to DCF and asked for them to consider letting him stay here. They were hesitant...probably because we kind of waivered once or twice before. Whoops! But we totally understood their hesitation and met with them this morning to hash it all out. They asked hard questions which we answered and we committed to having Isaiah in our family, as he already is. We just received word that they are going to allow him to stay and that they are happy that he won't have to move. We will have a lot of work ahead of us, but as we are learning, that is just part of being a parent, which is exactly what he sees us as...his Mommy and Daddy! So we are committed to working through our fears and frustrations and becoming a forever family.
Next will come some pictures of how he spent his summer, because, well he had a blast!
Until then...
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
WOOOO FREAKING HOOOOO!
Good morning~
Today is a blog post worthy day for sure, so I marched right downstairs and decided to update.
We found out yesterday that there has been a change to visitation between Isaiah and his mom. He has been seeing her weekly since he came here over 9 months ago and those weekly visits have really made life more challenging for us all around. Well as of yesterday he will now only see her once a month! This is a huge relief to us as it really means we can start to see the child that will hopefully live here forever. He has been still very hesitant and scared to attach to us because of his loyalties to his mom and seeing her so often. We hope this will allow all of us to become more close knit! Fingers crossed!
This weekend we went to a local carnival...here are some pics!
waiting in line with his tickets
can you guess what ride we're on?
surely his favorite part!
weeeeeeeee!
Monday, May 31, 2010
Remember us?
Happy Memorial Day weekend to everyone. I know it has been MONTHS since I have updated the blog. There really hasn't been much to update. No movement in the case...still some struggles but we are getting there. So today I was looking at some pictures and thought I should at least put some up here so everyone can see how much Isaiah is changing and all of the things he is experiencing!
Well, now that I think about it.... I guess there are some things to update.
Isaiah will be changing day cares in a couple of weeks. We are moving him to a home based day care in August. For the end of June and July...we have some interesting plans for his care. (:
My mom will watch him for a week in June and then Gabe's mom will be coming out from Ohio to watch him for the last week in June. I am taking the month of July off (gasp) and he and I will chill together having a ton of summer fun. As a family we will also take a week long trip to the shore during July. Then he will start his new day care in August AND he will start preschool at the local elementary school next year. WOW!
We have had Isaiah for 9 months now...sometimes is seem much longer and other times it seems like it has gone by so fast. What we know now is that the adoption will not be final any time soon due to many different reasons. But we are okay with that. We are still learning a lot about the little guy and are happy to have the support of the services provided by the state to help us as we learn.
New Turtle Sand box
Monday, March 29, 2010
Pictures!
This link takes you to our Facebook album with Isaiah's pictures. The most recent ones are at the end...Easter Egg coloring and the bunny blast on 3/28/10 at a local school.
Enjoy!
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